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“I’m a Shiksa,” Drew Barrymore Talks Judaism, Plans to Raise Daughter Jewish (VIDEO)

January 29, 2013 2:57 pm 21 comments

Actress Drew Barrymore. Photo: wiki commons.

Actress Drew Barrymore appeared on the TV show “The View” Friday where she spoke about her husband Will Kopelman, calling him a “nice Jewish man from a nice Jewish family.”

“I’m a shiksa. I do the seders, and we do Passover. I haven’t converted yet, [but] Olive will be raised traditionally.”

She added: “We had a very traditional wedding ceremony with Rabbi Rubenstein and I did the ketubah. We wore the yarmulkes and we did the chuppah.”

Barrymore revealed that couple plan on raising their daughter Olive as Jewish and that she hasn’t converted “yet.”

“It’s a beautiful faith and I love to be around it. It’s so family-oriented… The stories are so beautiful and it’s incredibly enlightening,” she said.

Watch the video of Barrymore on “The View” below (Starts at 1:40):

21 Comments

  • how will the children of ALL creation bring His, Abrahams, Jacob, (2 sticks) Northern

  • Laura Cohen Huvard

    I’m sorry that Ms. Barrymore described herself as a “Shiksa”. Unfortunately, she isn’t aware of the real definition or I feel sure she wouldn’t have described herself as one. It is a very ugly and condescending word coming from Yiddish that means “an abmomination”. The proper term in this instance would be a “goya” meaning from the other nation.

    It is obvious that she has found that living Jewishly gives meaning and substance to her life, so much that she would like to create a Jewish home for her children. There are so many Jewish couples that don’t practice, care or appreciate their Jewish roots and here is a person that wants to create a Jewish home by choice.

    • Laura,

      The word shiksa in the context that she used it is not what you described. The issue really is your own Jewish guilt here making you exaggerate the term. Get a sense of humor and please do not contribute to the already horrible way that a really great religious tradition is described by morons and bigots.

  • Sruart, your writing is so full of anger. I am sad for you…and…all who judge Drew so harshly.

    Our holy Temple was destroyed because of UNWARRENTED HATRED….ANGER.

    I suggest you read Rambam’s letter to his son. In it one of the lesson is that “ANGER IS A MOST SERIOUS CHARACTER FLAW WHICH CAUSES ONE TO SIN.”

    Imagine where we would all be if RUTH, the Moabite were judged as harshly by Naomi’s people?!

    Remember…all Ruth said was…”YOUR PEOP;E WILL BE MY PEOPLE…YOUR G*D WILL BE MY G*D.”

  • Stuart Kaufman

    If you take a glass of the finest Bordeaux wine and you drip distilled water into it, with every drop the wine is diluted until it stops being wine at all. That is the effect of the Reformed movement. Whoever Elliot J Stamler is, he doesn’t understand that it is immaterial whether he and the others whom he calls Jews hold us in contempt. Over 4000 years we have become inured to that. This fellow Stamler is following Korach not Moses (look it up, Elliot). The Reformed Movement stopped being Jewish 40 years ago. Goodbye and good riddance. Don’t let the door hit you in the butt on the way out.

  • Jeffrey Justin

    in World war 2 the Nazis didnt care if your mother or your father were not Jewish or that anyone with mixed religeon Parentage ,More 1/16th jewish ancestry,they went to the camps or killed on the way. Whom of you has the right to questions a young womans questions about Jewery since she married a nice jewish Boy. if this was 1943 europe ,she would be on her way to Aushwitz

  • elliot j. stamler

    These comments from the orthodox just further proove that there is a very good reason that the large majority of the large majority comprising 87% of American Jewry have utter contempt and dislike for most orthodox people. These comments show what a bunch of vicious, hateful, miserable, intolerant people they are. Of course Jewish INTRA-marriage is preferable but to these orthodox if you aren’t orthodox or marry outside the faith you are to be execrated and ostracized They are no different than the fanatical Islamists except they don’t cut off people’s heads or murder their own daughters.

  • Drew Barrymore’s mother is Jaid Mako. She was born in 1946 in a DP (refugee) camp in Germany in 1946. Drew’s grandparents were from Mako Hungary. Mako had a very sizeable Jewish population. It is ironic that Drew has married a Jewish man.

  • This is pretty sad to Jews as the instrument of their own demise. I am JEWISH, I was born in Israel and raised in orthodoxy. I am very proud of my heritage and background. I can proudly say my father helped in the creation of our Jewish state by fighting for the Palmach and building a moshav after the war.

    Now having said all that, I am ashamed of the zealots who insist no one is Jewish enough. The end result is there are only 14 million Jews left in the world of which 5 million are in Israel.

    The world at large would be very happy to see us disappear……why are we helping them??? Why not embrace anyone who embraces us? Are we that snobbish? Surely we can’t be that foolish in helping the world to extinguish ourselves. We must show tolerance and teach those who embrace us openly and lovingly especially since we’re also loosing Jews to other faiths at a record pace.

  • This is pretty sad to Jews as the instrument of their own demise. I am JEWISH, I was born in Israel and raised in orthodoxy. I am very proud of my heritage and background. I can proudly say my father helped in the creation of our Jewish state by fighting for the Palmach and building a moshav after the war.

    Now having said all that, I am ashamed of the zelots who insist no one is Jewish enough. The end result is there are only 14 million Jews left in the world of which 5 million are in Israel.

    The world at large would be very happy to see us disappear……why are we helping them??? Why not embrace anyone who embraces us? Are we that snobbish?Surely we can’t be that foolish in helping the world to extiguish ourselves. We must show tolerance and teach those who embrace us openly and lovingly especially since we’re also loosing Jews to other faiths at a record pace.

  • I met Drew, as a person is filled with chessed/loving kindness.
    As she stated she is learning.
    Clearly her heart is in a GOOD place…AND…She did say she is learning.
    Drew joyfully wants to raise her daughter in what she currently believes to be Traditional Judaism.
    What she doesn’t understand is that the Rabbi who married her didn’t educate her to what “TADITIONAL JEWDAISM IS…”

    I know people who converted through the Reformed movement…then as they learned more they converted again through Conservatism….And through more learning and their growing love and understanding of Yiddishkeit/Jewdaism converted a third time through Orthodoxy.
    Their commitment to the disciplines as they continue to grow is very inspiring.

    Remember Ruth…”I will go where you go and your people will be my people”
    Let’s give her some slack and offer her compasion.

  • OK SO YOURE NOT GONNA POST MY COMMENTS, THE TRUTH!
    IF YOU DONT, THEN YOU ALGEMIENER, ARE PART OF LOSING ANY JEWS THAT MIGHT FOLLOW KOPLEMANS PATH OF DESTROYIN JUDAISM.

    • bracha avraham avienu

      I too was not jewish when I came from my mother’s womb. when I found Hashem my neshama rejoiced. I was allowed to convert over 45 years ago and have lived a jewish life ever since. do not judge this young woman, her husband or (G-d forbid) her baby. her baby may bring them all to be observant jews. do not reject any jews. there are too few of us !

  • Maybe one answer is everybody converts. Oh oh. Remember a Jewish uncle telling me about putting two Jews together and having three opinions. Or was that the Irish uncle who believed there wasn’t enough Guinness to go around?

  • How, exactly, does she plan on “raising her daughter as Jewish” when she knows nothing about Judaism, other than a kind of warm, fuzzy feeling that it’s “so family-oriented”?

    What does she mean “we wore the yarmulkes”? Who is “we”?
    What is this “traditional wedding” she claims they had? No true traditional Jewish wedding would involve a Jew and a non-Jew.

    “Nice Jewish men’ from “nice Jewish families” maryy nice Jewish girls…

  • “we wore yalmulkas?” I think Drew’s idea of judaism is obviously not too Orthodox.

  • by the way the ketuba is in instrument registered in the heavens not just a piece of paper..more disrespect from that so called rabbi.
    INTERMARRIEGE IS FORBIDDEN.
    LOVE G-D AND ‘HIS’ LAWS not a materiel life

  • THE WEDDING WAS A FARCE, That so called rabbi is a farce,
    she is a fraud, kopelman is a fool.Like a firefly attracted to bright lights glitter and fame he just killed another JEWISH WORLD through this farsical marrige.The children is not jewish.
    Only the tradition for thousands of years of a Torah Orthodox Conversion will she be admitted into the heavens as a Jew. kopelman intermarried trying to lie to the heavenly courts lying to G_D which the punishment is severe to his soul.
    THOUSANDS OF ELIGIBLE JEWISH LADIES OUT THERE BUT LIKE THE INSECT ATTRACTED TO LIGHTS THEN BURNS IS WHAT HE DID… UNTIL SHE PROPERLY CONVERTS AND THE CHILD ALSO. MANY COMMUNITIES WILL NOT CONVERT HER FOR MARRIGE PURPOSES.
    JUDAISM IS NOT SOMETHING YOU BUY IN A SUPERMARKET.
    JUDAISM IS HOLY AND SPIRITUAL ABOVE ALL OTHERS.
    G_D chose us amonst all the other nations to receive
    HIS TORAH.

    • Speech is considered to be lashon hara if it says something negative about a person or party, is not previously known to the public, is not seriously intended to correct or improve a negative situation, and is true. Statements that fit this description are considered to be lashon hara, regardless of the method of communication that is used, whether it is through face-to-face conversation, a letter, telephone, or email.

      The sin of lashon hara is considered to be a very serious sin in the Jewish tradition.

      The term lashon hara does not explicitly occur in the Tanakh, but “keep thy tongue from evil” (נְצֹר לְשֹׁונְךָ מֵרָע) occurs in Psalm 34:14. The Torah contains a general injunction against rekhilut (gossip): “Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people; neither shalt thou stand idly by the blood of thy neighbour: I am the LORD” (Leviticus 19:16). In addition, the words “ye shall not wrong one another” (Leviticus 25:17) according to tradition refer to wronging a person with one’s speech.

      The Talmud (Arakhin 15b) lists lashon hara as one of the causes of the Biblical malady of tzaraath. In Sotah 42a, the Talmud states that habitual speakers of lashon hara are not tolerated in God’s presence.

      One should be extremely careful to never shame another in public. This sin is akin to murder; just as blood is spilled in the act of murder, so too when one is shamed the blood drains from his face. One who publicly embarrasses his fellow loses his share in the World to Come.

      The Power of Speech

      Judaism is intensely aware of the power of speech and of the harm that can be done through speech. The rabbis note that the universe itself was created through speech. Of the 43 sins enumerated in the Al Cheit confession recited on Yom Kippur, 11 are sins committed through speech. The Talmud tells that the tongue is an instrument so dangerous that it must be kept hidden from view, behind two protective walls (the mouth and teeth) to prevent its misuse.

      The harm done by speech is even worse than the harm done by stealing or by cheating someone financially: money lost can be repaid, but the harm done by speech can never be repaired. For this reason, some sources indicate that there is no forgiveness for lashon ha-ra (disparaging speech). This is probably hyperbole, but it illustrates the seriousness of improper speech. A Chasidic tale vividly illustrates the danger of improper speech: A man went about the community telling malicious lies about the rabbi. Later, he realized the wrong he had done, and began to feel remorse. He went to the rabbi and begged his forgiveness, saying he would do anything he could to make amends. The rabbi told the man, “Take a feather pillow, cut it open, and scatter the feathers to the winds.” The man thought this was a strange request, but it was a simple enough task, and he did it gladly. When he returned to tell the rabbi that he had done it, the rabbi said, “Now, go and gather the feathers. Because you can no more make amends for the damage your words have done than you can recollect the feathers.”

      Speech has been compared to an arrow: once the words are released, like an arrow, they cannot be recalled, the harm they do cannot be stopped, and the harm they do cannot always be predicted, for words like arrows often go astray.

      Let us be – ourselves – holy and spiritual. Let us welcome Drew Barrymore. We were once “strangers in a strange land.” We know how difficult that can be. It is our responsibility to welcome the convert and never disparage them for their conversion nor their past.

      Shalom!

    • Must be nice to have so much hate and be so narrow minded.

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