New York Jewish Professional Looks for Love on ABC Reality Show
Michael B. Chadwick has baked challah from scratch, rented an apartment to Grammy-winner Joss Stone, and been to every American state except Alaska. Now he can add reality TV show contestant to his resume. The 35-year-old from Manhattan will appear on ABC’s new show “The Proposal” on Monday night.
Chadwick, who is a team leader for Citi Habitats, said that he wasn’t thrown off by the environment on the show, where nine men joined him in competition for a mystery woman named Dr. Celine.
“We live in a world where people are quick to evaluate people,” Chadwick said. “Of course you want to make a good impression but I’ve never been too worried about what people think. I was calm and I wasn’t really nervous. I just wanted to be who I am.”
On the show, the men go through a first impression round, a beach-wear round, and then have to answer a romantic question.
While naysayers believe that reality TV can’t produce real relationships, Chadwick said that there is an opportunity for something real.
“It’s about finding love, which is hard,” Chadwick said. “I always had a lot of respect for people who would do something that people might consider crazy — to go on a reality show. Who’s to say it’s so crazy? There are people that fall in love without knowing each other for a long time. It happened with my grandparents. You ever heard of the expression, ‘You can’t put God in a box’?”
Chadwick said that a key to love, life, and real estate is being able to bounce back when things don’t go your way. He recalled a time early in his career when a major deal fell through at the last second. He was dejected riding home on the subway when he was suddenly approached by men in black.
“These Chabad rabbis put tefillin on me,” he recalled. “And it was like God was speaking to me, telling me everything was going to be okay.”
Chadwick, who is also an actor, considers himself a romantic suitor, and has cooked dinner for women and even written songs for them. He said that he’s learned a lot about the human heart.
“Love is about putting other people’s needs before your own, listening instead of just talking, and building a relationship where you don’t think about ‘me,’ you think about ‘us.’”
Has he ever had his heart broken?
“Who hasn’t?” he asked. “Hearts are more resilient than you think. If things don’t work out with a woman, it simply means I’m closer to the one I’m supposed to be with.”