It has been ten years since Hamas toppled the Palestinian Authority in Gaza, and then took control over the territory. Today, the socioeconomic conditions in Gaza are so horrendous that if nothing is done immediately, the whole area is bound to explode. When that happens, you can count on Israel’s and Hamas’ leaders blaming each for allowing the situation to deteriorate to this perilous point.

In my view, both sides are equally guilty of an egregious betrayal of their own people. No matter how much longer their conflict persists, both sides will remain trapped in a reality that neither can alter — short of a catastrophe. The question is: when will they come to their senses and find a way to peacefully coexist, knowing that the alternative is only continuing violent hostilities?

Meanwhile, thousands will be killed between the two sides, havoc and distraction will reign, and the Palestinians in Gaza will pay the heaviest price.

Gazans live in dire conditions, suffering from shortages of food, medicine, drinking water and electricity. Infrastructure is crumbling, and hundreds of thousands are living in squalor as housing shortages continue to climb — from 71,000 in 2012 to 120,000 today. More than 1.2 million people there are in desperate need of humanitarian assistance, tens of thousands are living in abject poverty — exposed to disease and malnutrition, 75,000 are internally displaced and the unemployment rate is 42 percent (and as high as 60 percent among the youth).

The problem is that both Israel and Hamas are living in self-denial, as if they can wish the other away. Both are guilty of playing politics with the lives of Israelis and Palestinians, refusing to assume their share of responsibility. They find comfort in pointing the finger at each other’s outrageous conduct, and have become enslaved to their own old and tired acrimonious narratives, leaving little room for reconciliation.

Hamas has convinced itself that Israel is the main culprit behind the Palestinians’ decades-old plight, pointing to the inhumanity of the blockade, the severe restrictions on goods going in and out of Gaza and the stifling Israeli security apparatus that sealed off the territory from the air, sea and land. They are demanding the unconditional lifting of the blockade, without offering anything in return but more acrimony and a continuing security threat.

Hamas’ leadership conveniently forgets that much of their misery is self-inflicted. Instead of focusing on building schools, hospitals and housing, and repairing much of the crumbling infrastructure (especially following the last war with Israel in 2014), Hamas maintain a bellicose posture towards Israel — threatening its very existence. Instead of using money for humanitarian relief, Hamas has spent hundreds of millions of dollars on building new tunnels through which to attack Israel, and buying and manufacturing new weapons while focusing on stockpiling tens of thousands of rockets.

In their newly-revised charter, although they talk about the establishment of a Palestinian state along the 1967 borders, they proclaim, “The real state is the fruit of liberation, and there is no alternative to the creation of the Palestinian state, with its sovereignty on the entire Palestinian land with Jerusalem as its capital.”

Has it ever occurred to Hamas that they cannot — now or at any time in the future — overwhelm Israel militarily to achieve their elusive goal? And that if they ever pose a real existential threat to Israel, they will be the ones who will be decimated first? Logic dictates that if they want the blockade to be lifted, they must renounce violence, recognize Israel’s unmitigated reality and stop claiming the Palestinians’ right to the entire mandated Palestine.

Not even the most moderate among Hamas’ members should assume that Israel would simply lift the blockade unless the Jewish state’s security is absolutely and permanently assured. Hamas must swallow its pride and concede that the strategy of using or threatening violence against Israel has failed, and only further hardens the Israeli position.

Yet anyone who places the blame solely on Hamas is dreadfully wrong. Israel continues to play its part in the ongoing tragic saga unfolding in Gaza.

There is a pervasive misconception in Israel — promulgated by the government — that Hamas is simply irredeemable. They justify the blockade by insisting that Israel’s unilateral withdrawal from Gaza made the territory a launching pad for Hamas to launch rockets and terror attacks against Israel.

The late Prime Minister Ariel Sharon made a fundamental mistake by withdrawing from Gaza without any security coordination with the Palestinian Authority. He and his cabinet knew full well that Hamas was stronger, better organized and better militarily equipped than the PA; their capability to take over Gaza by force was visible for all to see.

Moreover, while imposing the blockade was necessary to prevent the smuggling of weapons and explosives, Netanyahu in particular has made no effort to change the hostile nature of Israel’s relationship with Hamas. Instead, he deliberately chose to manage the conflict by maintaining a tense atmosphere to serve his political base, and to stay in power.

Furthermore, the Netanyahu government uses Israel’s unilateral withdrawal from Gaza and the security hazard it poses to justify the continuing occupation of the West Bank (presumably for security reasons). Hypocritically, while Netanyahu condemns Hamas for striving to establish a Palestinian state over the entire land, he claims the Jews’ right to the entire biblical “Land of Israel” — which includes the West Bank, of which several of his ministers openly seek annexation.

When will Netanyahu accept the fact that Hamas is not going anywhere, and that the status quo is simply untenable? Yes, Israel can go into Gaza again and even decimate Hamas’ leaders while inflicting massive destruction, as it has three times in the past. But what then? New, even more extremist leaders will rise in short order. Nothing will fundamentally change other than maintaining the vicious cycle of violence from which neither side can come out unscathed.

Both sides must come to terms with their reality. Yes, this is the logical and practical thing to accept. But sadly, logic and realism often give way to misplaced emotions, misguided ideology and blind belief in the Middle East. But look where these lofty precepts have led them to — hell is now lurking in the darkness of their own creation.

The majority of Israelis and Palestinians want to live in peace. There is no need for another Israeli or Palestinian child to die because of the ill-advised leaders who make a career of defying time and circumstances to the detriment of their people, when the solution is there for them to grasp.

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